Why does the Taoist monk keep telling the same explanation of the Tao, just in different ways?
Because he had to keep reminding himself even though we are sick of reminding us😉
If I blame someone else, I give them the power to my happiness and take it away from myself.
What if we stopped making people tough and instead put that energy into making it safe for everyone.
Representation matters. You matter. Represent yourself.
The astronomical implications of the butterfly effect. At one side, that humanity has been attempting to be able to actually calculate every moment in the cosmos. Since the astroglade. But that the calculations is so profound due to outside influence being so interconnected that unless the world was placed inside of a Cavendish type experimental compound, each quark within the cosmos would need to be calculated. So cool. Like looking at calculations and formulas every where. Justc trying to figure out how ancients devised a system to calculate triangles and circles. Then, using that to figure out how far away the earth is from the moon.
Learn history. Not the highlights. The lowlights. The common roman, the common Egyptian. Learn that societal norms of a caste system with any basis for categorization ( religion, skin, money) has historically been seen as barbarous. Those that actively seek to eliminate these systems have become the souls admired in both life and death. Actively seeking to rectify one’s short comings while being loving with yourself and easily allowing yourself to evolve your ideas and ideals will ensure a long lasting loving projection of yourself✌🏾😘
Cities should be structured for foraging rather than the current model of scavenging.
Criminalizing missing anyone you love, especially your child, is not ok.
The different incarnations of our lives is worth revisiting to see the importance whom we were and of what we deemed most holy. This birds eye view can give a notion of what a future self may think of who we are presently.
In addition, it gives you freedom to see the importance of why we needed to be that person and what we had striven for/ did to become who we are now. Balanced respect and humility for ourselves.
Its not about finding the people with the highest vibrations, intentions, goodness. Everyone is capable of both at any time just like you and me. It’s about practicing that high vibration with the people whom you are with and taking responsibility to leave if they are not.
Normalize ambidextrousity with practice.
I think I just made a terrifying yet completely obvious fact. Humans social advancement is light years behind its scientific/physical advancement. Humans figured out how far the moon was from the earth in 230 BC yet not that women deserve to vote until 1893 (New Zealand). Why are humans so ignorant of each other’s equal right to live and survive. I really hope humans start asking themselves why they think the way they do. Why do they think that being born in a certain class affords them more or less. Do you really think a CEO automatically benefits more to society than a school janitor. Why do we make false gods. Titles aside, who are the people that truly benefit you. If you were in the apocalypse, fat guys in suits with guns still don’t last long.
Humans. Smart enough to collect and analyze the data to conclude that symbiotic or mutualistic relationships work the best yet to dumb to implement it.
A children’s book/ show with real bugs to develop empathy for insects short life
I don’t want to be better than anyone else and I don’t want to be less than me
I can’t believe that i have something important to say and i could be for in contempt for it.
The hurt people that continue to hurt people are the ones that still believe that they deserved to be hurt
Only the hurt people that still believe that they deserved to be hurt, hurt people.
Stop listening to the narrative you have been told your whole life about who you are and become someone better than you ever imagined.
Isn’t it funny how packaging can affect the acceptance into particular sub sets. To become truly valuable, your packaging shouldn’t change your intrinsic being. To gain value, look beyond the packaging and why you look at it in the first place.
Red card, green card
The realization that some people’s things (that are not important enough to be in their home) may have better shelter than most of the planet’s humans while driving by a 3 story storage building. Things are protected more than lives.
Maybe the crucifixion of Jesus wasn’t about the incredible, insurmountable, really can’t fathom the agony that he endured but,
… to see if who or anyone would try to save him or,
… if they would be to afraid to save the man that they called savior from the excrucianary pain he was in and just watch feeling pity.
Maybe the planet is in peril because it is helping us to learn what we need to heal ourselves. Less. Quiet. Basic. We are just as sick as the planet as we pollute or bodies, mind, soul and heart. What is good for the planet is good for us. Love yourself to love the planet. Real love. Not distraction. Real inner love. Then you’ll want to spread that love.
“Sit down and shut up. You’re being warned. It will get worse if you say anything, ” friends say.
“You can’t fight them,“ friends say. “Look how long we have been fighting racism. “
That’s the problem. We haven’t been fighting.
Questioning someone regarding information relayed is not an attack on a person’s lack of knowledge. It is now a collaborative conversation of at least 2 that has doubled the chances of figuring out the best possible outcome regarding that information.
I went through intense psychological torture for over a year. Researching and practicing different aspects of different spiritual practices saved my life. It wasn’t one magical thing. It was the process that was right for my system, learning the way I did. I am so grateful for all systems of belief that encourage healing from within and the simple procedures that help develop that inner strength and maliability. Learning when standing tall is appropriate and needed. Learning sometimes, even in the worst situations, you may have no control or can change it in any way. That is still hard when people you love are being hurt. It is necessary, though, or you will internally kill yourself with the perceived illogical and injustice of the situation. Then, you can’t be there to stand tall when it is time to stand up and help those who can’t stand yet.
Making a decision about a child’s welfare from the opinion of people that have only known the family for less than 24 hours is ridiculous. Not taking into account the actual people that have seen the child grow up is a major mistake that needs to be rectified.
A monopoly is when you only have one choice. The court system is turning the mental health profession into a monopoly for their interconnected providers.
Having four mental health professionals directly associated socially and professionally in one court case should be called out for what it is. Biased. One professional is not going to discredit their colleagues or friends.
Mental health professionals that mandate practices or make analysis have to stand by their work. There needs to be accountability for their work in all areas. The impact these mandated professionals impose on the public is immense and long-lasting. Their needs to be a way for these professionals to be professional. A title does not negate you from the decisions you have made.
If the government assumes the power to mandate children’s freedom, then they should assume the responsibility of any hurt that the system they set up inflicts on the child. You can not wash your hands off your decisions.
Cinnamon Brooms at doorways aren’t just a cool wiccan tradition. Bugs don’t like cinnamon ✌🏾
Why do they coddle the abuser and punish the victim? They pacify any public concerns by softly suggesting ways to behave in less abusive ways and make it that much harder to bring any concerns, no matter how little, up to any authority so that bringing up abuse just brings more abuse. Please ask me for specifics, if you would like.
You either support that which you fear or that which you love. Support more of what you want to see in the world because that is what support does. Aids growth.
Supporting what you fear is not trusting yourself. You put your faith and safety in the hands of something outside you. “I can’t do it on my own, so if I do entering for you, don’t let me fail.”
Supporting what you love is so much more fun and joyful.
There is a tao tale about a monk that gets blamed for a girl pregnant. When the family yells at him and leaves the baby with him, all he says is, “Is that so. ”
He raises the baby for a while. They get along. Then the girl breaks down and tells the truth. It was the cute guy down the street. The family comes back and apologizes that they made a mistake and takes the son. All the monk said is, “Is that so.”
I used to think it was an acceptance but now I think it’s the understanding of if we are all one then, he did knock the girl up via the cute guy down the street (he is also the girl) so in essence, “is that so” is appropriate. As in, “Oh, I didn’t know I did that. Ok. “
I’ve loved the phrase, “When you know better, do better. ” by Dr. Angelou ever since I heard it. It is so freeing and really how everyone should be. No regret of the past. If you had known better, you would have done so. No anxiety of the future. You will do what you need to do when you need to do of you are always trying to do better.
I just realized tonight how zen that is. Or mindful or whatever semantic. It’s perfect. It’s beauty. It’s love. It’s picking up trash when you see it every time. Or the freedom to change your mind about something that was so important before. Not underrating or diminishing the value of that which you held true. In fact, it sort of proves the validity of that which you do currently hold true when you are able to recalibrate your conclusions after new information is presented to you. Solving puzzles with more clues. Learn as much as you can and find new betters every day🦋.
If everything we knew existed was a book, Tao would not only be you but every other character in that book. But not only that, Tao would be every action, interaction, narrative, thought, word, the spaces in between the words, physical pages, the spaces in between the physical pages, the fibers, the author, the reader, the publisher..
Knowing you are Tao if Tao is you. Therefore, you are every other character in your life. Good or bad. Comfort or conflict. It doesn’t really make the experience easier, nor does it negate you from doing the best version of yourself that you know yourself to be, but it does help alleviate some resistance to acceptance of situations. I find the hardest for me was believing anyone could think this was rational, logical, or just. Most didn’t, but they found it acceptable enough to let it happen. Knowing characters helps.
What if, one night, you had a dream that you tripped on your way into the coffee shop
And then..
The next morning, that happened, exactly like the dream
What if that night, you dreamed you knocked over a pickle jar at the grocery store accidentally
And then…
That happened, exactly like the dream.
What if five more dreams and give more “exactlys”, happened
Then…
What if that night you dreamed that a meteor took out the earth.
Is there anything you would do differently that day?
Why are autistic so authentic and why do authentic get confused with autistic.
What a lot of people didn’t see was me breaking down crying alone in the yard or yelling into a phone because I was being denied being able to speak with the person I cared for and loved the most, running through the yard to the front and down the street glaring as if I could see the denier in his own eyes just so I could glare at him because I was just that mad. Mad. Helpless against the unjust control. Helpless and mad. I try not to get mad anymore. It does no good. I try to really be the happiest I can at any given moment because once the enormormity of my situation comes barreling down on me it hurts so badly that I just have to cry. And I can’t cry my life away. No one should. It helps no one.
Just occurred to me. The Vanilla bean is really dark brown. Kinda black. So the only reason the white vanilla ice cream tastes good is because of the black vanilla bean.
If we are class is an average of our environment and our company, then logically we must have some very high class people around us and a very high class environment. Make sure we treat them so🩵
It’s never too late to be classier. It’s your life. Pick your caliber of life.
I have heard from a lot of people that they liked being with me because it was, ” like you are drunk but you don’t drink.” Reading the map of consciousness. I’m authentic. My ego was smashed into smithereens a long time ago. I had no barrier between who I am in my passions, heart, soul, mind or body. Physical, non physical. I yam who I yam.
*side note. Maybe so many kids that went through trauma young were blocked from the paralyzing negative effects through some trick of the brain or higher not known power becomes addicted to drugs and other blockers so they felt that high again.
Is spherical geometry compression and hyperbolic geometry expansion?
If refraction is due to the difference in light speed in different materials, does that mean we are seeing 2 time periods at the same time?
I feel if everyone would live authentically, there would be no envy.
Recognizing your an introvert because you talk yourself out of bike riding alone, to go swim alone because your phone is at 55%🤦🏿♀️😆
An institution should be held accountable for actions when they claim absolute authority in matters. If you are pay off that institution, you should not be able to say, “well, I just did my job and that’s that. ” You were instrumental in an outcome and should be proud of your hand in it. If you are not, you are doing something wrong.
Eventually, everyone has to turn inward and realize that they can’t use others to make themselves feel better. Use that as comfort in days when you feel helpless. Not just you, but everyone eventually needs to be able to face their fears on their own. Finding strength in yourself is something we all have in common.
It’s not easy to stand tall after doing dishes on your hands and knees for 12 yrs. This sh#! Is a struggle.
Flexible body, Flexible thoughts
I will not be silent. I am being the advocate that I needed a year ago. I needed to hear that none of this was ok, and it is ok to stand up for yourself. I’m not going to push you over, but I am not going to be a pushed down either. An adult can do that. Stand on their own 2 feet. – iamdoingbetter.com
That old Coke commercial where the native American man was weeping at the garbage. I weep that it is not only socially acceptable, but it is socially EXPECTED to be defensive almost all the time. Everyone really acts like the person around them is out to get them. Why do people not only say hi to people on the street or even in their neighborhood not rarely even look them in the eye. Look up. Humanity is beautiful, too. Stop being so scared of your neighbors. This planet is your neighborhood. Seriously. To think the best of everyone instead of what they could do to hurt you. If a person makes a mistake, you have 2 choices. 1. Take offense by thinking it was directed at you specifically 😂. 2. Realize that we are faliable and treat them they way you would want to be treated. (This is not to condone any abuse. Those are not mistakes, and intentional hurt is not to be continued). How the heck can we take care of the planet when we can’t take care of each other.
I’m sorry I didn’t get the memo that we are supposed to be assholes to each other all the time. I was kept under a rock. -iamdoingbetter.com
Calling me names and bullying me doesn’t make me love you less. I like you less and will probably choose not to be around you but I still love you. – iamdoingbetter.com
If you are uncomfortable with being presented with the truth of your actions, don’t do those actions. -iamdoingbetter.com
If you don’t like being called out on don’t creepy s#!+ , then don’t do creepy s#!+. -iamdoingbetter.com
You can not silence me by saying that it’s unfair I tell the truth of what you are still doing. Just stop doing it. Learn from your mistakes. Own up to your stuff and be an adult. – iamdoingbetter.com
If it works for you, why would it matter if anyone can see or believe. You do. That’s what makes the difference. – iamdoingbetter.com
Negating the message because of the messenger. I’ve done this so many times. Listening to someone and finding so much truth but then hearing some sort of inaccuracy that had nothing to do with the truth I heard and still almost completely doubting everything else I heard. What does it matter if there was a disparaging part of the messenger. The message is what is important. Don’t kill the message because of the messenger. – iamdoingbetter.com
(My Little One has shown fear of something happening to me, so this came to me to tell her instead of “don’t worry, i won’t die.” ) Don’t fear losing someone. Enjoy the time you have with them and try to emulate the parts of them that make you feel good. That way, they are always with you. – iamdoingbetter.com
You don’t have to be right to be respected. The wisdom in humility speaks volumes about character. A leader who clearly admits mistakes while seeking to rectify without defensive maneuvers proves they are responsible and reasonable. Thus trustworthy and respectful. -iamdoingbetter.com
I respect someone who admits when they were incorrect about something, even if they adamantly arguing and truly believed they were correct. That takes real growth. To let go of a long held truth that no longer proved best. Someone with that humility will not put their own ego above the best interest of a community, family. You don’t need to LOOK infallible. You need to BE malleable. Wisdom is fluid. Not solid. – iamdoingbetter.com
If the whole world is mad around you, how can you know you are sane?
If you are the combination of the perception of the people around you (quark, particle wave theory probability of where particle will be but doesn’t “exist” until observed), then does the company you engage with truly make you who you are?
What could cause a break in connection wide spread enough to see a whole community effected?
Possibly, human genetic evolution was so traumatic, the fear became so inherent that when the highest percentages of natural dangers were significantly lowered, humans needed to become their own enemy to fill that need.
Why did we put ourselves in a bunch of cages shut off from each other. The locks aren’t to keep animals or weather out. – iamdoingbetter.com
Humans, our greatest ally turned greatest Villan. Let’s reverse the process.- iamdoingbetter.com
Because I want to be the change I want to see in the world. – iamdoingbetter.com
Because if I don’t speak up, it’s saying it’s ok. – iamdoingbetter.com
Because I do not want anyone else to have to live the way I do now or how I did then. – iamdoingbetter.com
Because nothing great was ever done by NOT standing up for what you believe in. – iamdoingbetter.com
Because not speaking up is how I got here. – iamdoingbetter.com
Meditation is the strength training for the game of your life. If you want to perform the best in Life, you need to give yourself time to train outside of the game. – iamdoingbetter.com
How much of your opinion of people is based on hearsay? Who do you really know and who do you really see the actions that back up the words. I am realizing how many of my neighbors, people I went to school with and just anyone in general was completely skewed by one person’s opinion of them. I trusted him implicately and didn’t take the strength to form my own opinion. I need to reassess all of my opinions. 12 years of one person’s opinions and flat out lies about the world needs to be washed out so I can see people and the world the way it really is they my own experiences. I had a pretty big garbage heap to make that apparent to me. Most people don’t get that opportunity. They stay listening to the gaslighting that is perpetuated some them without thinking of they really believe what they are hearing.
How can you know you are well, without being sick?
How can you know Love without Indifference?
How can you know community without being totally alone?
How can you know heaven without knowing hell?
To know the best in life, you need to know the worst.
I had considered myself lucky that I knew gratitude. The lack of carpet, lack of heat, lack of stove, lack of sink, lack of pretty much any and all modern conveniences made when one of those was finally earned, it made it so much more wonderful. I felt real gratitude for the carpet and never forgot how grateful I was. This is a blessing. I still feel this way. Like a person who was kept from the sun hidden in a cave, I greatly appreciate all of the people in my life. That can be overwhelming for some people. Maybe they don’t understand that for a long time, I didn’t have anyone to talk to. So I can go over board. But I also can get scared easily and run back into the “cave”. I am also incredibly grateful to be able to do dishes standing up😊 – iamdoingbetter.com
It took me 2 years of serious thinking and trying before I finally had the guts to leave for good. I did counseling, books, homework. This was not a quick decision, even when I figured out that he really was abusing me. I still felt it was my duty to be a good mom and wife. Even after I told him, it took 4 more months of crippling mental, financial and I’m going to say physical because he used his physical presence to intimidate and scare me, before I finally filed. Even being abused, society trained me to stay abused for the sake of the family. That is not ok. Abuse is not ok. The ends do not justify the means – iamdoingbetter.com
Contracts are for people with no honor. – iamdoingbetter.com
A marriage is a contract. – iamdoingbetter.com
The perverse dichotomy of political religions that covertly allow the burning of those with heretical views contrary to their own separate beliefs. – iamdoingbetter.com
Your flag of freedom in any sense does not give you the right to take down someone else’s flag. – iamdoingbetter.com
If your ideals inflict any control over another’s freedom, then prepare for your freedom to be taken away. – iamdoingbetter.com
It is not ok to spew hate even if you think it’s for a good cause. Hate is hate. It does not make Love. – iamdoingbetter.com
Those that don’t know how to process their fear properly, make threats. – iamdoingbetter.com
A dude walking down the street with his dog threatened to kick my dog even though I was right there. My first thought was very Duke back safe (in front of my house where I’m working.) Then I thought, you douche. My dog is awesome. The was are dogs that come running down the road at me and Duke while we are walking and my first thought is never to kick the dog. Dousche😂 I was actually kinda upset for a little but also because I didn’t process the whole thing properly. My next reaction was to tell the dude if I saw him that maybe he should just walk in the other side of the road because I could drop kick him (maybe? Depends on how pissed I was, I guess. Not after pilates though. My butt hurts so bad. ) but then it occurred to me. That’s why he said that. He cowered and he was scared. I should have realized that and reassured him. Here’s to getting better and trying to remember this. Even defending Duke, I don’t need to cower or fight. I am solid😘-iamdoingbetter.com
Before you get married, you should know how to divorce. -iamdoingbetter.com
Success does not mean you were not abused. Being joyful does not make the suffering acceptable. Confusing still living in fear and being able to move on in the best way you can, is dangerous. Confusing being able to cope the best way you can while still in abuse is ignorance. Don’t doom a victim to be forever stuck a victim to validate them. Don’t let survival techniques keep you from seeing the truth. You can only be fooled, if you want to be fooled. You hold the wool and decide if it goes over your eyes. – iamdoingbetter.com
Normalizing resting not quitting works beyond physical exercise and personal goals. Resting not quitting while pursuing our personal truths, our Gods, our scope of humanity would be greatly beneficial. All beliefs, no matter how concrete they seem, have continually been stretched, morphed or completely destroyed. Be bamboo. Stretch with it and move on when it is destroyed. Why stay in ashes when you can rise with new ideas. –iamdoingbetter.com
I love how yoga/sports are a great reminder of life. You may have listened, tried your hardest and still not quite able to do something. But, then… one day… you hear, try, see something that gets you to tweak your approach just a little and it’s like a breakthrough. A whole new understanding of all that we were trying to do in the first place🩵 – iamdoingbetter.com